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The people you surround yourself with determine your outcomes. Choose wisely. #relationships #friendships #energy #growth

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A powerful excerpt from my 7x NYT bestselling book. Comment BOOK for the link to order it now! I asked couples who’ve been married 50+ years what advice they’d give to their younger selves. Here’s the relationship advice everyone needs to hear… #relationships #love #growth

Who are the Michelangelos in your life? Send this to them to let them know! In a 1999 paper, appropriately titled ​Close Partner as Sculptor of the Ideal Self​, a group of psychologists found that when your partner sees you as the person you’re trying to become, they act in ways that support that vision and you actually move closer to that ideal self over time. They called it the Michelangelo Phenomenon, a reference to the sculptor, who chipped away until he freed the angel within. Two sculptors looked at a block of marble and saw something broken. Michelangelo looked at it and saw David. The people in your life are looking at you right now. What they see matters more than you think. Find your Michelangelos. Be one to someone else. #growth #relationships #love #marriage #friendship

Nobody is thinking about you. Go do the damn thing. The Spotlight Effect is a psychological phenomenon where we dramatically overestimate the degree to which other people are noticing or observing our actions, behaviors, appearance, or outcomes. The term was coined by a group of researchers in a ​2000 paper​ after conducting a series of now-famous experiments in which they had students walk into a classroom wearing an embarrassing outfit. The students, forced to don a t-shirt with a huge picture of Barry Manilow on the front, were asked to estimate how many of their classmates noticed their outfit. The researchers found that the students systematically overestimated the percentage of their classmates who had noticed or recalled their appearance. They estimated 50%, when in fact, only 25% did. In a follow-up experiment, students were asked to track their classmates’ appearance changes throughout a semester. The result: People had dramatically less awareness of changes in others than they assumed others had of them. The Spotlight Effect basically says that we think everyone else is noticing and judging us, but they aren’t. Even if they are, they quickly forget about it. The root cause is egocentric bias: Our tendency to see everything through our own “Player 1” lens. We’re the main character of our own movie, so we assume everyone else is watching it too. But they aren’t, because they’re too busy starring in their own. Here’s the harsh truth the Spotlight Effect reveals: You aren’t afraid of failure. You’re afraid of other people seeing you fail. You’re afraid of what other people will think of you if you fail. It’s the fear of the judgment. The fear of the embarrassment. The fear of the scrutiny. The fear of the whispers. The fear of the silence. The fear of what they might say or what they might think. I often wonder how many extraordinary people waste their entire lives fearing the judgement of people who were never even thinking about them in the first place. Nobody is thinking about you. Everybody is too busy thinking about themselves. That thing you’ve always wanted to do? Go do it. #growth #mindset #fear

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Life advice nobody taught you in school… The people you surround yourself with create your entire reality. Choose wisely. #growth #relationships #friendship #mindset

Leave a ❤️ if you agree! Black Coffee Theory changed my life (and may change yours). The ancient philosopher Lao Tzu captured this well: “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” If you give too much energy to the negative—what you want to avoid—your entire identity can slowly start to become organized around that thing. Your words, actions, habits, and character become enmeshed in that thing. And as Lao Tzu pointed out thousands of years ago, your destiny follows. A life built entirely around what you don’t want is a life controlled by it. The antidote is simple (and leverages the science in your favor): Create a vivid image of what you do want. When you define what you actually want with clarity, your brain’s monitoring system starts scanning for that. You’ll notice opportunities you previously missed. You’ll meet people you would have glanced by. You’ll make decisions from a position of strength rather than weakness. You’ll operate from a confident footing instead of a fearful one. Your words, actions, habits, and character will start organizing around the life you want, not the one you’re avoiding. If you hate black coffee, stop ordering it. Your thoughts are your order to the universe. Treat them accordingly and you’ll make sure you get the coffee you actually want. #growth #relationships #love #mindset #energy

What investments are you making in yourself this month? #growth #mindset #discipline

Nobody is thinking about you. Go do the thing. #growth #mindset #energy #fear

Are you searching for an answer or for the truth? The Streetlight Effect is the tendency to look where it’s easy, rather when where it’s right. To measure the things that are easy, rather than the things that are meaningful. To cling to routines we know, rather than adapt new ones that work. To ask the questions we can answer, rather than the ones we’re avoiding. The keys may not be where the light shines. Sometimes you have to be willing to walk through the dark to find them. Because here’s the truth you rarely want to admit: The answers you seek are found in the questions you avoid. #growth #questions #mindset #relationships